Good afternoon our teacher
On behalf of my
group, I’d like to introduce Mr.Diep, Ms.Duyen
and me – Mr.Trang. We’re here to talk about
"cohabitation”. Do you know what "cohabitation”
means? It means living as wife and husband before marriage. In VN, we call:
"song thu”. We divided our presentation into 4 main points: actual state, advantages,
reasons and disadvantages.
Let’s go !
Nowadays, there are
many ideas about cohabitation. There are different opinions between the world
As we know, in the
world, they can live together as husband and wife before getting married. It’s
very popular. In some nations, the law don’t allow that 2 men or 2 girls live
together in a room... You can live with different sex people in the same room.
And they always encourage (khuyến khích) this. But, after living together long time,
if they feel suitable, they’ll get married.
And in VN, a big
part of people disagree this. However, young people enjoy very much. They think
like the foreigner. Can you see? Let’s see a student. They live together as
husband and wife. They want to try that how husband and wife live.
And now, I will
tell you about the good face of cohabitation.
Let’s start with
advantages of cohabitation. In my opinion, we shouldn’t say it is
"cohabitation” that we have to say "live together” before getting married. We
should call "cohabitation” that "song that”, live very seriously, they are not
joking. All of emotion, sex, spending is true.
So that’s the
general picture for cohabitation as some young people said that cohabitation is
not bad. Because through living together, nobody is vulnerable(bi hai). The
family is too machinery, we have to try on it to know” has to defect”, "has to
maximize” satisfactory? I ask for permission give a question that in the life,
what has to no exactly and miraculous by try on rule practical.
together” whatever is too beautiful when live together, all of bad habit will
be developed. And now if they don’t stand up, they can say "good bye my love”
Needn’t tribunal, haven’t to argue, haven’t to divide property.
So, to summarise
about cohabitation, It is a method system completely has to science basic
because if you don’t live together have we can know that two people. If they
live together, they can know whether they are suitable with each other or not.
As a result will be
good if they had already experienced practice. And cohabitation is the most
We can give many
causes but there are three main causes. The
first is economic condition. When we love some
one we will get married. But we can’t do it because we have not enough money.
We don’t organize a wedding, buy an house. So some one choose a solution that
The second is studying and working condition. There are many
people studying and working in some locations far from their family. Exactly,
they live far from their parents who often remind, help, take care of them.
When they have mistake their parents don’t recommend them. Because they live
without manager, they can do whatever they want. They are really free. Living
far the family, they feel alone and they decide to live together with a man or a woman as husband and
Finally, physiological requirements are very important cause,
too. Now, the life has many changes, children eat full nutrition develop both physical
and mental. Besides they are affected by sex films, sex photographs. It
influence badly on their psychophysiology. Because somebody is curious, want to
discover and to satisfy the sexual desire, they accept cohabitation.
let’s turn to disadvantages by presentation of Ms.Duyen
Thank Mr.Trang, and
now we’ll talk about disadvantages:
Family have changed
in the last several decades. Instead of getting married of people is living
together or "cohabitating” .Is cohabitation a good alternative to married? Is
it good way to "test out” the relationship? We’ll answer all questions by
looking at the facts beside cohabitation.
Living together leads to living alone.
Some people think
that living together will lead automatically to married, but that often is not
the case. Much cohabitation breaks up. For many other couples, cohabitation is
viewed as an alternative is less likely than married to lead to a long –term
relationships are fragile. On average cohabitations last less than two years
before breaking up or converting to married. The more likely they are to
effects on children.
What happens to
children born to cohabiting parents? .Today, more than 13% of children are born
to cohabiting couples. However, only about one third of those children will
remain with both their parents throughout their childhood. So, children born to
cohabiting parents do less well at school and are more likely to suffer from
emotional problems than normal children. Cohabitating father seems to not
support children and we all know the destiny of these children in their future.
Ok, thank you Ms.Duyen about your ideas. And I would like to ask Mr.Diep
who was a student of Maritime
University with his
cohibitation opinions, please you:
Mr.Diep: Umh, cohabitation
is a hot tendance in Western countries nowadays. In Viet Nam
it is becoming more popular, especially in student life. Today, I just want to
mention about the cohabitation of students in Viet Nam.
must answer the question "Why we want to cohabit and not to get married?”.
There are many reasons for this question. The first may be for some economic
reasons. Cohabitation can save many living expenses. We can share a renting
house, the worries about daily necessaries and of coz, cooking together is
cheaper than one. The second may be the lack of family’s love. We all know that students like us, we live far
away from home in unfamiliar places so unavoidablely, we often feel so lonely
and be like a fish out of water. We don’t know anyone here and when we meet a
person who has the same circumstance like us, we easily besome wearier. We
decide to live together so we can share the emotions( happiness, sadness, the secrets…)
and some precious experiences from life. People often consider that
cohabitation often be the result of the curiosity about sex , the "goal” they
always wanna explore their partners and cohabitation, its easy to establish and
say "goodbye” also so the
boys, they will not have to take any responsibility for the girls who they
cohabit with as real couples. But I think the most popular reason is testing. I mean that some cohabitants think that
they should test their marital life before really getting married. Because they
live with each other to see if they are compatible or not. Its very important
because first we can love our partners so much but after a long time living
with them, we can find many problems appeared.
are many reasons which object to cohabitation. First, we can find that the
problems, especially financial problems are the main reason of arguments.
Second, it’s the problem of "unwanted pregnancy” and its results. And one thing
for sure, cohabitation is hard to come to a marriage when we r still students.
So when splitting after a long time living together, one can be shocked and
hard to restart a new love.
think much before deciding to cohabit. The bright future is in front of our
heads. I don’t mean we don’t be cohabited but we must know how to choose the best time to do it. Think it
over and choose the best for our lives.
Finally, I (Mr.Trang) must say that: all we know the advantages
and disadvantages about "cohabitation”. We don’t give you any advice, it
depends on you. Decide your life and try your best. We’d like to wish all of
you will be happy with your choice. Thank for listening. Have a good night.